Another Day

So we're winding down another weekend at our house. It started out poorly, Ms.M and I have been talking some about a reconciliation, let me rephrase that- She started the process, said that she wanted to try this, and I have been doing some talking some. She has been playing me. I am admittedly a sucker, willing to do most anything to keep my family together. It seems that when she needs something from me, I am good enough to talk to, but once I give it to her, she no longer has any interest. We got our tax return Friday, I sent her a text message and asked her to meet me for lunch to split it up, but never heard anything back. But when I left my office for lunch, she called me to ask how I was going to arrange to get her money to her. I asked why she couldn't have sent me a text message back and met me for lunch? She said that she was too busy, and again what I was going to do to get her money to her. I finally said that I was on my way home home to take care of my puppy, and that she could meet me there. Now, even though she was too busy, and couldn't meet me for lunch, she immediately said ok to meeting me at my house. Maybe it was because it is so much closer than any restaurant? Nope, actually my house is probably further away from her work than any restaurant in town, but whatever. So I get home, get the pup, and take him outside to play, and potty. We wander around a little, work on some manners and puppy school, and pretty soon, it is time for me to get back to work. I look up both streets, and no Ms.M in sight, I have to get back to work, so I leave and call her on the way. Turns out she got hung up by a passing train, I apologized, but said I needed to get back to work. This was of course a huge problem for her, she needs that money! So I agree to meet her on my way back to work, this is going to make me late, but I agree anyway. I meet her, get in her car, get my receipt signed, and call the bank to transfer funds into her account. I suggest several times that we use this time to talk about "us" but she again has no time. I say ok, and leave to get back to work. She called me after work to tell me about all the banking she was able to do since I put the money in her account, now remember, I have been paying all of the bills since December, but she was proud just the same. By this time, I had C with me, and was on my way to get Boo from daycare, she was on her way to pay the daycare provider; again, she had money. So, we are going the same place, I will have my kids, so I suggest we have supper together. She "doesn't think that is a great idea at this point" so I said ok, and hung up. At this point, C says from the back seat, "so we are going to have supper with our whole family?" I unfortunately have to tell him her answer, he says "why?" I don't know what to say, so I just tell him it didn't work out. I have already admitted to being a sucker, I want to save my family, but am tired of being the only one trying to save it. She has done much more wrong than I, and has done nothing sincere to try to help make amends or make things better. I wish this was different, but I cannot change her. Oh well, enough negative about a negative.

The kids and I had a great time this weekend. Friday Ky stayed the night with a friend; I hate not having her around, but I also realize she needs her social life. The boys and I went to the movie store, picked out some flicks, and had a boys night. Popcorn, soda, and a late night watching kids movies; what more could a daddy ask for? Saturday morning we slept in, for my boys and I, this is 7-ish. We worked around the house, cleaning and doing laundry, then had some boys game time. C really likes to play board games, and Boo is getting old enough to have his own player on the board. A couple big games of "Sorry" then we ordered pizza, and had a picnic on the floor. Ky got home early that afternoon, and we went shopping. Hobby Lobby, Pier 1, then the mall. JCPenny for some work clothes, not great fun, but necessary, then off to Hot Topic, Journey's, and up to the Pretzel Maker for a snack. We got home a little late, I got the boys in bed, and then Kylee and I spent two hours just sitting and talking, some of the best time and conversation we have ever had. She is truly her daddy's girl, and it makes me both very sad and very proud to watch as she grows into such a beautiful, smart, capable, young lady. I think she is a little too grown-up for her age, but dealing with her life lately, I don't know what else to expect from her. She tells me "I just take it as it comes."

Today we started with church, something I have always felt we should do more of, and today the kids and I decided that we will go every Sunday that they are with me. Nice service, and nice to see so many people from the church I grew up in. We went out for breakfast afterwards, and called UA to join us, also ran into another great old friend of mine there. Good food, great company. We left Perkins, and went to Wal-Mart, believe it or not, a very busy place on a Sunday afternoon, Duh! Anyway got a bunch of stuff we needed, and also found a new BBQ grill. Very nice grill, good price, but I'm unimpressed that I had to buy a new one; I had a nice grill, but it left me in the divorce. Great that she got it, the only time she ever used it, she caught the damn thing on fire! Oh, no more negative right? So I get this grill to the front of the store, pay for it, and then realize that it probably won't fit in my car, another Duh!. So I call UA again, he is actually on his way there anyway. He picks up the grill, and brings it to my house, quite a story here, we talk about it as we are carrying it up the stairs. The last grill I bought (the one I spoke about above) he picked up also, brought it to my house and helped me carry it up the stairs. Then when Ms.M left and decided she wanted that grill, he helped me carry it down the stairs for her to pick up. Anyway, we get it out on the deck, and spend some quality time together assembling it. Great fun for the boys too, lots of Styrofoam to play with, and Ky got some alone time with her computer and email. I put together a good supper, stroganoff with potatoes, green beans, and cottage cheese. The super great ending was after supper when Boo brought his "once upon a potty" book to UA and asked him to read it. Of course, he did, and to hear not only Boo, but C and Ky laughing as he read about body parts and what they do was priceless. If you haven't read the book, it would be worth a trip to the book store just to be able to picture him reading it! Priceless! Thanks Man!

Anyway, Grey's Anatomy and more laundry to close the night, and back to the race tomorrow.


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