Man I love my kids! I simply can not get enough of them, and every time I drop
them off for their days with their mother, I get absolutely irate with her all
over again. What type of parent that truly loves their kids leaves the
relationship that allows them to be with their children every day? I don’t
understand this, the only reasons that I can come up with for her are pure
selfishness, and a deep desire to hurt me. She has always been selfish, but I
never thought it went to this extent, to actually say to herself "I only want
to be able to see my children 50% of their lives, only experience half of what
they do" or "every other Christmas is ok with me," this just doesn’t seem like
acceptable parenting to me! She knows this, and that it cuts me to the core to
lose any time with them at all. Some people get divorced, and continue to have
a civil relationship; I am not now, nor will I ever be that type of divorcee. I
will never let my kids see our negative interactions, I will never allow them
to hate their mother, but I will not be her friend ever again. We had a good
marriage, and my ex-wife and I together were good parents, we complimented each
other well. The key here is together. The kids seem like an inconvenience to
her now, of the time the kids are with me, they are lucky to get a bed time
phone call half of the time. Maybe this is part of her reasoning, she is only
physically responsible for them a little less than half of the time, and only
has to check in on them half of the time she doesn’t have them, so really she
is only a 25% parent; great I guess, this leaves lots more time for just her!
Yeah!

I just don’t get it! Well I kinda get it I guess, she is in it for her, and
only her. If I can remember this, I will be able to take some of the surprise
out of her future actions. Every bit of research says that children do better
throughout their entire life if they come from a home where their mother is
married to their father. This not only relates to academic performance and
extracurricular activities, but also to their own relationships; the percentage
of children of divorced parents who themselves end up divorced is astronomical!
My children deserve a better chance than this. Divorce is simply out of control
in this country. I never felt that I would be part of this statistic; I hope
that even though their mother made a joke of her wedding vows, and broke every
promise that she made that day, my kids will find love, and stay in it. I
should have looked at things more seriously, my wife, at our wedding reception,
was the most under-dressed person there. She had her dress on for about half an
hour, then went and changed into cut-off jean shorts, and a t-shirt. She always
thought this was a funny story to tell, but it always bothered me, I mean
really, she was the bride, and it was too much for her to keep her dress on for
our reception? I am disappointed that I have wasted my love and affection on
her for the last 14 years, but even more upset that she is willing to do so
much damage to the kids. Again - Selfish!

I hope she can deal with it when she opens her eyes and realizes
the pain she has caused to so many people; and with nothing more than what she had
for reasons, this will be a very hard pill to swallow.