Thursday, May 25, 2006

So off we go!

Here goes; the second chapter in my book of life! The introduction clearly states that I wanted my family most, I tried everything I could, but for some, everything isn't enough. I have a new friend, her name is Erin and she is a true beauty. I met her completely by chance through my daughter and her desire to get new hair. Ky got her hair done as part of her Christmas present last year, and when she needed something new done, we went back to Erin, the same stylist at the same salon. I had a nice conversation with her as they were getting started, then I left so they could have some "girl time." I have been told I flirt in my normal conversations with women, if I get this from anyone, it's from my Grandad and like anything else I got from him, I am proud of it. He was the best man I ever met and will be my hero forever. I went and had lunch with my brother and went back to check on Ky. They were just rinsing her hair when I got there, Erin and I had another nice visit as she finished Ky's hair. The new hair was done, and it was time to pay the bill, we went to the counter, got the total and I signed the receipt. The last time we were there, Erin gave me a business card with her schedule on it, and this time was no different. She handed me the card, I looked at it, and commented "another business card with no home phone number?" She said "ya, and next time you're late, I expect flowers." We had been late to the appointment because of a soccer game. Sorry. This was all fine, and would have probably just passed as a cute comment, but then she winked at me. I like to wink, and like to be winked at, but the bigger issue here is that I love to buy flowers, and jewelry for that matter, and I have great taste in both. This hair appointment was on a Saturday, so all day Sunday I thought about flowers. By Monday, I figured fuck it, I called my florist, and sent her flowers at work. I was pleased with my decision and was sharing with friends at work, when a girl says "I would love for you to send me flowers too, but my husband wouldn't like it." It was at this point that it hit me, I never bothered to ask her about her relationship status! The flowers are on their way, what can I do now? Again, fuck it, all I can do is wait until I get home to check my answering machine. It was a long wait, but well worth it. I got home, sent my kids outside to play, and pushed the button. "Hi this is Erin, the flowers are beautiful, thank you! My number is 430-2***, call me if you want to." I did, and asked if her husband/boyfriend was going to kill me. She had no husband or boyfriend....Yeah! So we talk some, hang out, she's interested, I'm interested, but still this "mayhem" that I deal with. I live an honest life, so I am very open with her in the fact that I have a wife that I hope will come home. She is honest too (nice change) and agrees with families staying together; she has been completely supportive in all that I do in that part of my life. Recently I have come to realize that the last chapter in this book has closed and will not be re-opened. It was a bad decision; I hate it and I always will, but as I have said many times, it wasn't my choice. I invited Erin to my softball games last night and she came. I was a little uncomfortable when she first got there, but I relaxed as soon as her daughter ran up to me yelling my name and hugged my leg. If I had another daughter, her name would have been Kaycee, and although Erin spelled it different, it is neat to have a little girl around with that name. Coincidence? Anyway, it was nice to have them there, I introduced her to several people and I look forward to her being around more. This is the new chapter so far, moving on. Thanks S for the push, I guess maybe you were right, I hope you and I are still ok. I look forward to the future and all it holds. Smile kids, the sun will rise tomorrow on another beautiful day!!

10 Comments:

At 2:13 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

good luck. I hope that you find hapiness.

 
At 9:39 AM, Blogger Stephanie said...

that's great! I'm happy for you!

 
At 10:57 PM, Blogger exmayhem said...

Hi S,
Everything is great! Evidently we are OK? Good, I am happy about that. I'm glad you are still stopping by and leaving comments. I still feel lost most days, not sure which way to go but I did give 110% to what I believed in, I know that for sure. The world is bright and new place for me, I hope if you are ever in town we can get together. I'm in the book, call me sometime.

C

 
At 12:01 PM, Blogger Stephanie said...

We are fine. My heart is with Mayhem, and always will be. She is my sister and I love her more than she even realizes. I enjoy reading your blog, because you do a great job of updating everyone on the kids. I want to make clear, however, that I do not have all of the details, and probably never will, of the split. What I can tell is that you are living a place right now in which you believe that 90% of the issues were her fault, and I simply don't buy that. I know that the divorce is not what you wanted, but I don't think you're ready to see the part you had in it coming anyway. I don't know if you'll ever see that, and I guess you don't really need to. I'm very happy you're moving on. I think the sooner you both find happiness, the sooner you can deal with each other on a kinder level. That will only benefit the kids. I also think it's sad that you paint the woman that you love so dearly in such a negative way. Maybe, if you spent more time thinking about her, and not your own pain, you would wonder what's caused the change. Again, I'm not trying to accuse you of anything. You are an old friend, and the father of children that I love dearly. But I wanted to be clear that I will never choose anyone over Mayhem, our history is simply to strong. I just don't think this is something I have to take sides in.

 
At 8:50 PM, Blogger exmayhem said...

Hi S,
Glad to see you back. I know where you stand with her and I; I hope she learns to return the love she receives. My kids are my life, that is why I spend most of my blog time on them, thanks for noticing. I must again clarify that I do not believe either one of is holds more than half of the responsibility in the negative issues of our marriage. We had problems as most married people do, but there were lots of better choices than the one she made. I fully realize the mistakes I made; I have taken responsibility and apologized to her many times for those mistakes in person, on the phone, through email, and on my blog. She is to blame however, for what has transpired since she left. You do a fine job of analyzing what I did, and what I need to do; as you say, you clearly don’t have any idea of what the whole story is. The woman I loved so dearly no longer exists, she has been replaced by ms.mayhem. She is popular in certain circles, but an ugly, bad person to most. I don’t paint her in an bad way, I simply put her actions in print. Again, I wouldn’t ask you to choose sides, you and I go back as far as you and her; people can’t be divided like furniture. Thanks for stopping, take care.

 
At 9:14 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

be very aware of what is going on right now. protect those yu love

 
At 9:53 PM, Blogger exmayhem said...

Anon/CS
The C/S stands for chickenshit in case you wonder. Chickenshit is my little term for those who like to play but don't like the responsibility that goes with it. What do you mean by your 9:14 comment this morning? What is it that is "going on right now," who should I protect and from whom? If this is any type of threat, please attempt to come get me or those I love; please try me, I dare ya. You're a Chickenshit, take your medicine.

 
At 12:02 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

your email?

 
At 2:45 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

i am sorry that i am chicken but you are correct. there are things you should know but i have to remean anon. is there a better way to contact you

 
At 9:04 PM, Blogger exmayhem said...

nomoremayhem1@yahoo.com

 

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